Where do I belong? part 8
My birth cousins, on the other hand, have been most welcoming.Continue reading
Wife of husband who was adopted
My husband's birth mother has since passed on with her story. I have written a song to summarise her experience in these lyrics. Although I am unsure if her adoption experience was forced, there was an element of supervision from the church during her experience. I hope they are helpful to others.Continue reading
Yesterday my life changed forever.
Yesterday I found out that I have another older sister. Mum's first baby was taken from her for the sin of being unwed. Today I looked back at a family photo. What was my family now misses an extra blonde head poking up from behind us... Is that what my mother saw everytime she looked at it too?Continue reading
You can't win
"You committed a crime against society, and just because society has changed the rules, it doesn't lessen the crime."Continue reading
You search for the face of your precious baby
Forever you live with a hole bored through your heart and soul; you search for the face of your precious baby in the face of others every day of your life; you silently weep on her birthday, Christmas - any time when the waves crash..... Time does NOT heal these wounds.Continue reading
bundle of joy
No one ever told my mother there was a Commonwealth benefit she could have received to support Helen and herself.Continue reading
leading up to the birth
Relinqueshing a child was an act of loveContinue reading
Who has the right to take babies away from willing mothers?
The forced adoption era created such a long-lasting ripple effect of pain, grief and loss, that some days it's hard to see past it. The practices of such a time make me feel like a commodity.Continue reading
Wife of husband who was adopted
I have written a song to summarise my mother-in-law's lyrics for my husband. Although I am unsure if her adoption experience was forced, there was an element of supervision from the church during her experience. I hope they are helpful to other mothers who have lost the childhood with their children.Continue reading
You are doing the right thing ...
Do not expect a fairytale ending when you arrange a reunion with your adopted child, the lost years have different effects on everyone involved. It is a very personal journey, and one that bears with it much trauma. Remain strong as you always have had to be ...Continue reading
You don't know what you don't know.
Medical history can't be written and handed over, it has to be absorbed. People often don't realise the relevance until the information is needed.Continue reading
born lost found cruisin my ride of adoption
my experience of adoption has been good and bad i think im better for it..i think its a hard road but if your survivng thats ok..the fear of abandonment is always there its a constant..its made who i am its moulded and shaped me..thank GOD ive made it so farContinue reading
My experience involves parental secrecy of my adoptive status and my discovery of this at age 21. I reflect on the effect secrecy had on my childhood development and the ability to effectively build body image and a secure personality. Attched Link to my PhD thesis and other published material.Continue reading
survivng adoption my story
being born being adopted learning about life blessngs and curses ups and down hot and cold i have lived learned loved hated and been inbetween i have a richh perception of life and have seen humanity at many different turns adoption has changed me..Continue reading