I am now close to 80 and live in the ACT where I made a teaching career move a long time ago. I am on my third marriage, to a man I knew in primary school. My first marriage failed partly because of issues with the adoption of a baby boy in 1966.Continue reading
I had to see her again.. No mother would be satisfied with only spending 3 weeks with her child.Continue reading
Amendments part 1
The second major concern for the Secretary of Victoria’s Child Welfare Department was with adopting agencies’ accountability.Continue reading
And the effects of this awful practice continue......
The effects of forced adoption reach further than emotional trauma. It can affect people physically too.Continue reading
Each person signed the scarf and has kept it as a keepsake.Continue reading
Choices The voice of the social worker kept going round and round in my head. Think of the baby and make sure he has a home with a Mother and Father, a good education and a family who will love him and want him. You can't give him anything - to keep him is selfish. What choice did I have?Continue reading
At a Distance
I was born in Sydney and taken to the UK. My Mother found me from 12,000 miles away and I have 2 half brothers and a half sister and multiple relatives with a strong genetic and emotional link. Distances are vast but we visit each other across the world whenever we can.Continue reading
Advice and support in the use of DNA in searching for family
The purpose of Within These Walls is to encourage, enhance and nurture the process of uniting the parents and children who have been touched by adoptionContinue reading
All the branches fell off my family tree!
Being a Historian by profession, I Iwas able to track down my original birth certificate (being aghast that what I thought was my birth certificate, in fact, was a 'bodgied' but legal version with my adopted parents shown as real! 4 years later I have found families on both sides. All a bit late though..Continue reading
Amendments part 2
Other 50’s problems were issues surrounding inheritance: possible incest because of secrecy; consent under undue pressure; adopting couples suitability standards; and that adoptions could be heard in the Court of Petty Sessions rather higher Courts.Continue reading
I recently attended my first Apology/anniversay event. As I listened to the speakers talk about adoption without referring to the babies, I was swept away by grief that triggered my sense of being invisible and unheard ... a pre-verbal grief that, as a late discovery adoptee I am only just feeling.Continue reading
My mother assures me it was not a forced adoption! But I was not given a choice. I lived 37 years of my life feeling ashamed!Continue reading
Ashamed – Part 2 Guilt after the birth
The decision I made 44 years ago would have far-reaching effects, not just for me but for his biological father, my parents (especially my mother) and my siblings. We cannot change history but we can be guided by it for the future.Continue reading
At age 40, I was told my by now ex husband, that I am adopted.
I wrote my memoir Surviving Secrets as a contribution to my own healing. I also hope that it may assist others still searching and coming to terms with their changed life circumstances.Continue reading