Where do I belong? part 6

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I married when I was 22 - and what a powerful moment it was when I held my firstborn daughter in my arms, looking for the first time on someone who did ‘belong’.

Both my daughters are dyslexic and we had to find ways to assist them to achieve academic goals. My younger daughter also has asthma which affected her ability to learn, in that when she was well she was a high achiever and when she was not breathing well she appeared to be unable to learn or retain information. We took her to a psychologist for career advice and during testing he found her to have an IQ that put her in the top 2% of population.
The other children and I were also tested and we too fell into the top 2%. All of us have achieved academic success (thanks to computers we girls spell well) and all of us have forged successful careers, although I am now retired.

I have had a lifetime of not feeling that I belonged. I didn’t ‘fit’ in my family, at school or in my social life. I am very wary of trusting anyone new. However I was able to make a successful marriage with a man who also came from a broken home and who supported me throughout our 51 year marriage.
I was able to find a nursing position that required me to think, to innovate and to develop new procedures. In fact I probably over achieved in some quest to gain recognition.

 

I married when I was 22 - and what a powerful moment it was when I held my firstborn daughter in my arms, looking for the first time on someone who did ‘belong’.