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Ashamed

Mothers

My mother assures me it was not a forced adoption! But I was not given a choice. I lived 37 years of my life feeling ashamed!

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Ashamed – Part 2 Guilt after the birth

Mothers

The decision I made 44 years ago would have far-reaching effects, not just for me but for his biological father, my parents (especially my mother) and my siblings. We cannot change history but we can be guided by it for the future.

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At age 40, I was told my by now ex husband, that I am adopted.

Adopted people

I wrote my memoir Surviving Secrets as a contribution to my own healing. I also hope that it may assist others still searching and coming to terms with their changed life circumstances.

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BABY TRAFFIC PROBE IS ON part 1

Adopted people

A page 3 story in Melbourne’s, 30 March 1950, Argus newspaper reports that the Labor MP has announced that the illegal practice of charging for adoption was widespread in Australia’s capitals.

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Back from the dead

Adopted people

My mother was not surprisingly somewhat shocked to receive a letter from her baby who had died more than 50 years previously.

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Becoming legitimate

Fathers

Whilst a public apology is important in that it validates individual experiences collectively, an individual, through taking action, can promote his or her recovery from the wounds of adoption separation.

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Behind Closed Doors part 2

Adopted people

The amendment finally introduced in 1954 was a major change in that a person who needed to consent to the adoption could revoke the consent within 30 days of giving such consent.

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Ashamed

Mothers

Choices The voice of the social worker kept going round and round in my head. Think of the baby and make sure he has a home with a Mother and Father, a good education and a family who will love him and want him. You can't give him anything - to keep him is selfish. What choice did I have?

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At a Distance

Adopted people

I was born in Sydney and taken to the UK. My Mother found me from 12,000 miles away and I have 2 half brothers and a half sister and multiple relatives with a strong genetic and emotional link. Distances are vast but we visit each other across the world whenever we can.

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BABY TRAFFIC PROBE IS ON Part 2

Adopted people

Frustrated by the lack of action, in a confidential letter to Victoria’s Chief Secretary in July 1951, the Federal MP asks for the American doctor, and an operator of the notorious Avonhurst Private Hospital, to be investigated.

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Baby lost and Mother lied to

Mothers

As a young 17 year old, pregnant with my first child, I was manipulated by the authorities and treated as sub human with no rights and given no information about any possible assistance that existed in 1975. I was pressured into adopting my child out due to lack of informationn and lies from authorities.

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Becoming a mother taught me just what had been lost through adoption.

Adopted people

Already, I had learned to be alone, in this house full of kind, anxious strangers who wanted to love me but to whom I was an unsolvable mystery with an invisible, mum-shaped space in my heart.

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Behind Closed Doors part 1

Adopted people

Being adopted in 1952, I find the 50’s of particular interest. Archival records indicate that the Secretary of Victoria’s Child Welfare Department was preparing a memorandum to combat baby trafficking at that time.

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Being separated from Stephen affected every single aspect of my life.

Mothers

I would never have chosen to have had this tremendous loss experience, if I could have avoided it, but it is now a part of me and has given me empathy with others and fortitude to face challenges in life and not go under.

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