When I was nursing

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When I was nursing I met other women who had been through a similar experience. They weren’t patients, they were my colleagues. Many mothers who lost their babies to adoption went on to work in the health industry either as nurses or social workers. As did I.

I found these other women’s stories similar to my own, although there were differences. One nurse with whom I had worked had also had her baby removed after the birth. She went on to marry the father of her baby. Unfortunately, due to medical complications at the time of the birth, she was unable to have any more babies. I felt deeply sorry for her. I have never forgotten this woman and have often thought about her over the past forty-two years. Another woman I met during my nursing years found the transition into a post-adoption life more difficult and was determined to put all of her efforts into finding a husband with whom she could have more children.

Support for mothers was very different in those days. In the past when forced adoptions occurred, no counselling was offered to the woman whose baby was taken. The trauma that young mothers experienced was ignored and therefore suppressed, only later to be triggered at future times in a woman’s life. These include subsequent pregnancies and others had many difficulties with the reproductive organs and during menopause. It is at these times that a woman can seek counselling previously unavailable. The effects of a former forced adoption experience for a woman are long term and can often manifest at various times in a woman’s life both physically and emotionally.

 

When I was nursing I met other women who had been through a similar experience.

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