Losing My Daughter (part 16)

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Losing My Daughter
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I hold three University degrees. I have to say that at times I was driven to obtain my degrees by a need to prove to society that I was not a disgraceful person. I think this is sad. One of my messages in all this is that we need to be caring of all children and young people. To be respectful of them, their innocence and vulnerability, and to do what we can to enable them to reach their potential.

In closing I will add that many people have said to me that my daughter and I are better off because she was adopted, that we were both given a new beginning. Speaking for myself I will say that I don’t know if this is the case. My entire life has been a challenge up until I began therapy. There has not been one day when I have not thought about my daughter, and I believe I will never get over losing her. She was all I had in a world of chaos. The spectres of Mount Saint Canice and the loss of my daughter are ever present at some level in the back of my mind. I feel defined by these years if my life, and I know that this is due to the constant message I received by my elders that I was a bad person.

As I see my grandchildren born, there is a lot of me that aches again as my experiences are echoed back to me. And I am sure I am not alone. What I am saying that an experience such as I had does not leave one and will rear its head decades later.

Can you imagine what it is to sit on a stone fence outside a house and know that you can’t get to your child because it has been stolen? Would you not agree that the cruelty was unconscionable? To spend the next forty years in pain as I have has been so very difficult. This should never have happened, and it should not be allowed to happen again.

I would like to see the following matters addressed:

(a) The policies and practices of the Commonwealth Government that contributed to forced adoptions. The Commonwealth Government had a very distinct role in contributing to forced adoptions by the lack of clear policies with respect to adoption, and by the lack of uniform laws of adoption across the country.

What happened to me and thousands of other women was a crime against humanity. We now have yet another stolen generation of children who were taken from us by government agencies. And the government, both State and Federal, remained silent. This silence enabled me and other young women to be tortured and threatened such that they were made sick for the rest of their lives. Until we can be sure that the Commonwealth acknowledges its part in these crimes and incidences of shocking behaviors against us, there will be no sense of atonement for us.

 

Losing My Daughter, continued.