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Because mum had been training to be a nurse, she was put on night shift regularly so that she was 'on call' for sick children. The women and girls had to work shift work, looking after babies and toddlers that they were told people were coming back for. This was very difficult for the mothers of these institutionalised children, as they weren't allowed to take them from 'The Haven' until they could provide them with a 'stable home'.

During labour, there weren’t any qualified staff with you to support you or help in times of emergency, only 'learning' midwives. Because mum was training to be a nurse before she came to 'The Haven', after her baby was born, mum was required to work in the nursery of the Commonwealth funded attached hospital at 'The Haven' where all the 'good married' people had their babies. Mum would feed her baby and when the baby fell asleep, would continue working in the nursery. She was reminded on a daily basis that those people were able to take their babies home because they were married and could provide everything a baby deserved that a single mother could not provide. Imagine dreading the time would come when your baby would be torn from your life, knowing that every passing minute meant time was drawing closer for you to lose your child and, to add insult and trauma, being made to work in the hospital where all the 'good' people could take their babies home.

During her pregnancy, Mum and the other 'inmates' were constantly shamed and told that if they truly loved their baby, they would not keep them. On Sundays, they were asked to lie at the church’s alter and beg God for forgiveness - repent - because they were so full of sin.

Incomprehensible.

 

Mum and the other 'inmates' were constantly shamed and told that if they truly loved their baby, they would not keep them.