I WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH BECAUSE I WAS A GIRL

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When I was 3 my mother brought home a baby boy John but she didn't like him because he had excema and she thought he'd get asthma and she didn't want an asthmatic child so she took him back to The Royal Women's Hospital in Melbourne. They gave her another baby Mary, but mum didn't like her either because she was a girl, she said she had 'big feet and was part Maori' and so she'd grow into a "big horsey woman", so she returned her as well.
My mother didn't want girls. She wanted boys.
After that she adopted 2 baby boys privately. The first was adopted when I was 4. His mother whom he met 45 years later, wanted to keep him, and screamed when they brought in the papers for her to sign. Twice that happened. The third time she signed because they used her hospital and doctors bill to bribe her and told her he'd have a private school education which he didn't. They gave her electric shock therapy because she was grieving. She never married or had any other children. My second adopted brother was adopted privately as well when my mother was 50 years old. She neglected him terribly, didn't bond to him and was too old.
My mother neglected me because she wanted other womens babies and the system allowed her to. No one was ever knocked back then. I went looking for love elsewhere and fell pregnant to my boyfriend, and my parents sent me to St Mary's where I was forced to relinquish my baby son. She did however try to adopt him and went to the Dept of Families but they wouldn't allow her too. They thought they were above the law, because I was the sole legal guardian of my son, and my mother had actually expressed a desire to keep him within the family, so they should have worked in with us both to make that possible. They should have advised me of the benefit that was available at the time but they didn't. The mothers of babies with any kind of health problems were given this benefit. In 1967 approx 77 mothers were given this benefit. Those babies had to go somewhere.

 

I ASKED MY MOTHER ONE DAY TOWARDS THE END OF HER LIFE WHY SHE BROUGHT HOME OTHER WOMEN'S BABIES TO ADOPT, AND SHE REPLIED 'BECAUSE EVERYONE WAS'