THE GIFT OF MOTHERHOOD

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The gift of motherhood is the greatest gift of all. The alternative is childlessness, and the loss and grief that brings is all consuming, and saddens and permeates the entire lives of those who are unable to concieve. Why else is there such a demand for surrogacy, adoption and IVF. The demand to fill the void is massive as the alternative is depression, sadness, grief and even trauma and never quite fitting in with their peers and the rest of society.
How quickly the adoptive parents of the Forced Adoption era forgot that, or didn't expereince it in the first place due to the tens of thousands of fast tracked adoptions that took place. How quickly they scooped up our babies, barely ot of the womb, with their umbilical cords still attached and how quickly their sense of entitlement overoad any feeling of empathy, compassion or kindness for the mother of their child. How quickly the mother of their baby was relegated to the insignificant title of 'birthmother'. How quickly she was dismissed as irrelevant, an incubator of no consequence. How quickly the adoptees life was reinvented and their genes and bloodlines ignored, altered and eroded.
Childless people miss out on the love, joy and happiness a baby brings to the entire family with the quirky little things they do and say. The baby's breath on their mothers face as they try to suck her chin and the look of wonder in their eyes as they think you know everything and are invincable. Childless mothers and fathers miss out on family trips to the beach, family holidays, playing Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny, birthday parties, 1st steps, 1st words, 1st day at school, buying pretty little dresses and shoes, making costumes for the school play. The sense of elation that comes as your child achieves even the smallest of things, the teenage years with all of their woes, is better than nothing at all and those problems are soon forgotten. It's a labour of love, not to be begrudged or complained about and a price put on to happiness. It's a gift and it's a gift that keeps on giving as adoptees marry and have grandchildren to complete the family.
Infertility is a terrible, inconsolable loss. Would be parents are always on the outside looking in. Their life is a life of sadness, of feeling incomplete.
The gift of motherhood is the greatest gift of all and not something to be exploited by those who are more wealthy. The sense of fullfilment is enormous.
Why do so few adoptive parents ever acknowledge the gift they were given?
The gift of life and genetic bloodlines should never be destroyed, white anted and dismissed as irrelevent.
Everyone has a right to know who they are, and everyone has a right to reconnect with their biological family.

 

I WAS FORCED TO RELINQUISH MY BABY SON. MANY MOTHERS ARE STILL NOT AWARE THAT THEIR ADOPTION WAS FORCED DUE TO FEELINGS OF GUILT THAT WAS IMPOSED ON THEM BY SOCIETY. IF YOU ASK THEM WERE THEY GIVEN ANY OTHER CHOICE OTHER THAN ADOPTION, THEY MOSTLY ANSWER 'NO'. MOTHERHOOD IS A SACRED BOND NOT TO BE BROKEN