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No one ever told my mother there was a Commonwealth benefit she could have received to support Helen and herself. She never received payment for the nursing care she provided at 'The Haven'. Just before Helen was born, Mum received a small payment from the Commonwealth Government through the Department of Social Services which she gave to 'The Haven' so her dad wouldn't have to pay any more money to the Salvation Army Institution.

Adoption can be based on one person's sorrow and tragedy while another set of people, are excited and full of joy, buying or making baby clothes, setting up a room; counting down the days to when they get their new 'bundle of joy'…such a parallel universe.

The human being who carried her baby, who felt every kick, a soul growing inside her body, gives birth - an enormous labouring - knowing that her child, her own flesh and blood, would be mercilessly ‘removed’ from her, without a word of support; a word to make her feel valued; words to carry her through a down-spiralling void that will never be filled as long as she lives... a lonely, fragile girl faces and carries the largest 'cross' of her life.

Her mind has been filled with propaganda - if you love your baby enough, you will give her to a husband and wife; people who can give your baby what she deserves - you will be able to walk away and forget about your baby. You can start a new life; have other babies. You will forget. LIES!!! - all cruel, devastating lies. And your baby you were forced to relinquish, is told you actually died at her birth!!!!!

 

No one ever told my mother there was a Commonwealth benefit she could have received to support Helen and herself.