ADOPTION LOSS IS A GRIEF LIKE NO OTHER

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    The loss of a child to adoption is like no other loss because there is no grieving process for a child who is lost to adoption, because the child didn't die.
    This grief is a living, growing grief that grows along with that child.
    It's not just the baby that you lose, it's the toddler, the kindergarten child, the pre schooler, the primary school child, the teenager, the high school child, the young man or woman, the university student, the married son or daughter, and the grandchildren.
    It's an all encompassing grief and loss that if anything gets worse as time goes by, due to the deep sense of injustice and awakening knowledge that not only what they did to us was illegal but that they knew full well at the time that we would grieve for our lost children for the rest of our lives. They broke their own laws in the social worker manuals in their festering hatred of young mothers.
    The so called social workers, doctors, nuns, nurses, ministers of religion and matrons that ran those Church run Homes were vengeful people, who broke the law in their combined hatred of single mothers and their desire to play God with other women's babies.
    Many stayed within the industry for decades to smooth over, justify and cover up their crimes against us and to bully other young women into relinquishing their babies even up to the 1980s.
    Forced adoption was deliberate punishment of the mother for supposedly being promiscuous, by a severely inhibited older generation.
    Re-union post adoption can never make up for the loss that we have experienced

     

    " NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF SOMEONE MOTIVATED BY ADVERSITY"
    The people who did this to us in their arrogance and ignorance, never realised we would hold them to account one day and that there would be a National Apology so that they could hold their heads in shame and the tables would be turned.